Raising four kids over my many ‘mom’ years has taught me some interesting and valuable lessons about forgiveness. I’m still learning lots on the subject, but I’ve realized it isn’t about the other person or the offender at all. No ~ As selfish as it sounds, It’s about the “me, myself and I”, before the Lord, in the situation, and His power and His strength in us, giving us the ability, to accept the loss or the hurt, regardless of how deep it may go! You see, beautiful one, We have to get closer to God in order to forgive and accept any loss graciously. Simple ‘acceptance’ releases the chained weight of bitterness that binds and tugs around the ankle! Simple acceptance of whatever it is that’s gone down, is like a key clicked in the lock that sets us free of the offense! Yeah, simple, straight forward acceptance! It’s the only way! Only in acceptance of the loss, can I ever ‘begin’ to heal in the whole healing process. Let me tell you ~ It won’t be instant, it never is, but just as time heals a surgery, a wound, or a broken bone; the broken heart, the pain of offense and the hurt of loss also heals with time, if we’ve accepted the loss before our Lord who lost His life at the hands of the angry mob. What did He do? He prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” They weren’t asking but He accepted His brutal treatment and ultimate loss of life on the cross and all for us, who are so undeserving! So must we ask God to forgive them and “accept” our lot and our loss. You see, when we accept the loss, it can’t get any worse so, what does it matter? It’s done! it’s over! It’s happened and we can’t change it! So we accept it and we learn from it! We forgive and we are forgiven over and over and over again in this life and each time we must move on, hopefully a little smarter and a little wiser in our journey!
Think of it this way! Have you ever forgiven your kids, even when they haven’t asked? When they’re young, we do don’t we? And in their child-like simplicity they forgive us when we fail them in their little worlds, so big to their concerns. It’s all in a days work and just a valuable part of training in kids-world and parenting. However, as they get older with their own minds and rebellious behaviors, it becomes a little more “adult like” difficult and chances are they’re not asking because they don’t care. So, rather than harbor it, holding it against them for the rest of their life, ~ we have to accept what they’ve done, forgive and let it go, or we’ll be the losers really. Yeah, sadly maybe ten times a day or more and always with the knowledge of another day tomorrow with most likely more of the same scenario. Remember the offender seldom asks nor do they have the ability nor power to heal and if we depend on the offender for our healing we may take the bitterness to our grave.
Matthew 18: 21, 22
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times? “Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
So maybe your day isn’t going so great and it feels like it’s one big heap of nonsense that no one even cares about. What do you do with that? What to do when the good ole days have kicked up their heels and jollied off south to the sunshine and fun-shine and left you in the heaps of winter doldrums feeling a bit shabby and just not up to snuff? Maybe there’s been a conundrum of if’s and and’s and but’s and you’ve played 20 million questions and not gotten any answers because there aren’t any answers to get anywhere. Everybody else is right and no one even hears what you have to say! It’s a crazy mixed up life and your day has just toppled off the wall much like Humpty Dumpty.
Yeah, we’ve all had them haven’t we? We’ve all been there, haven’t we? We’ve all witnessed first hand the downside of difficult and the hard – pressed pages of hardship. Beautiful you, through it all, stay true to the right things. Don’t let a downcast spirit crush your day or dictate your feelings. You can know the sun shines from the heavens on you, and even through dark clouds of gray, God sends His grace and favour from His heavenly throne to your soul. Get away with the God who cares deeply about you and even though you feel alone and isolated He’s crazy about who you are. You are made in His image and that’s His brilliant creation and perfection, personified in you. It’s no small matter. It’s who you are!
David knew how perfect God’s way is when he penned Psalm 18:30, 32, 33, 34, “As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in Him….It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect. He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; and He enables me to stand on the heights. He trains my hands for battle;….You give me the shield of victory.”
Awesome words from David to us on this all gone wrong day. So, beautiful one, get away with Jesus, even for a few minutes. Soak in His grace and learn from His laws. They will revive your soul and bring joy to your heart. It’s a promise, read Psalm 19: 7, 8, 9
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Ok, so the journey is long and the steps are difficult and the end just doesn’t seem to be in view. Don’t we just trudge along sometimes with head down and heart heavy and steps weary? I can only imagine a couple that did the same as they journeyed to Bethlehem for their government duties with taxes to pay and deadlines to meet and bones just as weary as ours! Yet with strength waning and with great apprehension amidst simple trust, nagging deep within their souls ~ they made their way. Yeah, Joseph the obedient through thick and thin, and Mary ~ heavy with child ~ the Savior of the World, experiencing events so complex and hard to comprehend they made their way ~ just because it was God’s plan and they were a part of it. Sometimes His plans are not easy, but it was a beautiful plan, a plan for saving the world and it had to be and it had to be just “precise” in its timing and perfect right down to the last straw.
No room, and all alone ~ but no! Not alone! Not even for a second, because God was guiding every lonely step of the way, even through their weariness. So beautiful weary you with soul heavy, and heart aching know that your steps are ordered by this same sovereign God that led the weary couple to Bethlehem! He directs with events so perfectly timed that we could never figure them out. He unravels the mess, the complications, the unanswered questions, the apprehension, and the fear right down to the final straw, where you feel like throwing in the towel. So don’t do it! He’s got it! Whatever has you bound in worry, Don’t give up! Mary went through what she went through for the ultimate purpose of delivering Christ to the world and presented us with a Savior and Yeah, a beautiful example for us.
So, our purpose in this life is to do the same through our struggles and our situations! Whatever difficulty is heavy on your plate this advent season, Let God lead you through it with precision as you deliver Christ to a needy world, through your faith and trust and joy even in the difficult.
Luke 1:35, 37
“The angel replied, ” The Holy Spirit will come upon you and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the baby to be born will be holy and he will be called the Son Of God….For nothing is impossible with God.”
So you did all you could and tried to make things right? As a matter of fact you practically turned inside out to make it right, but no one cared. No one even noticed or at least let on that they did. Why are some so impossible to deal with? So, what’s the point anyway? Why try? Well…because we must try. Just know you did the right thing by trying. We can’t control the outcome nor does God expect us to. He’ll look after it. He has custom lessons all designed just for us! He’ll manage their lives just as He’ll manage ours with all the lessons needed to teach us just what He desires to teach us. Yeah, it might be a hard road to travel, but just forgive yet one more time and float over the rough spots with acceptance. It doesn’t matter ~ it just doesn’t matter!!
“Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
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