Accepting Loss


Raising four kids over my many ‘mom’ years has taught me some interesting and valuable lessons about forgiveness. I’m still learning lots on the subject, but I’ve realized it isn’t about the other person or the offender at all. No ~ As selfish as it sounds, It’s about the “me, myself and I”, before the Lord, in the situation, and His power and His strength in us, giving us the ability, to accept the loss or the hurt, regardless of how deep it may go! You see, beautiful one, We have to get closer to God in order to forgive and accept any loss graciously. Simple ‘acceptance’ releases the chained weight of bitterness that binds and tugs around the ankle! Simple acceptance of whatever it is that’s gone down, is like a key clicked in the lock that sets us free of the offense! Yeah, simple, straight forward acceptance! It’s the only way! Only in acceptance of the loss, can I ever ‘begin’ to heal in the whole healing process. Let me tell you ~ It won’t be instant, it never is, but just as time heals a surgery, a wound, or a broken bone; the broken heart, the pain of offense and the hurt of loss also heals with time, if we’ve accepted the loss before our Lord who lost His life at the hands of the angry mob. What did He do? He prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” They weren’t asking but He accepted His brutal treatment and ultimate loss of life on the cross and all for us, who are so undeserving! So must we ask God to forgive them and “accept” our lot and our loss. You see, when we accept the loss, it can’t get any worse so, what does it matter? It’s done! it’s over! It’s happened and we can’t change it! So we accept it and we learn from it! We forgive and we are forgiven over and over and over again in this life and each time we must move on, hopefully a little smarter and a little wiser in our journey!

Think of it this way! Have you ever forgiven your kids, even when they haven’t asked? When they’re young, we do don’t we? And in their child-like simplicity they forgive us when we fail them in their little worlds, so big to their concerns. It’s all in a days work and just a valuable part of training in kids-world and parenting. However, as they get older with their own minds and rebellious behaviors, it becomes a little more “adult like” difficult and chances are they’re not asking because they don’t care. So, rather than harbor it, holding it against them for the rest of their life, ~ we have to accept what they’ve done, forgive and let it go, or we’ll be the losers really. Yeah, sadly maybe ten times a day or more and always with the knowledge of another day tomorrow with most likely more of the same scenario. Remember the offender seldom asks nor do they have the ability nor power to heal and if we depend on the offender for our healing we may take the bitterness to our grave.
~k

Matthew 18: 21, 22
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times? “Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

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Beyond Impossible ~ No Way!

Little Thoughts For Big Days
Little Thoughts For Big Days

Beyond impossible circumstances today? It’s ok! God looks after those! He holds them in nail imprinted hands so that you can free yours from the weight of it all. There’s no need to fret because ~ the most awesome thing? He does the impossible! He performs the miracles out of the emptiness and impossibility of it all. Take it to Him! Give it to Him and tread lightly in His footsteps as He guides your way! That issue isn’t yours, It’s His and He has a plan for it, even when it all appears like crumpled hope and a torn page out of your story. He’s guided many through the consequences of bad choices, the bitterness of brokenness, and through the dimmed lights of lost causes. He uses those very things to propel His plan and fulfill His goal to bring you to His preferred place, customized just for you. Don’t you know it? That just what He does!! He did it for our Biblical patriarchs and heroes and beautiful soul, all is well ~ He’s still the same today and He’ll do it for you ~ just for you!! Trust Him and don’t try to figure it out ‘cuz even in our greatest thoughts of Him, He is greater still!
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Psalms 143:8
“Let me hear Your loving kindness in the morning; For I trust in You; Teach me the way in which I should walk; For to You I lift up my soul.”

Psalms 16:7-8
“I will bless the LORD who has counseled me; Indeed, my mind instructs me in the night. I have set the LORD continually before me; Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.”

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Hold On To Hope

Little Thoughts For big Days
Little Thoughts For big Days

It’s so easy isn’t it ~ to blame God when we mess up? And yeah ~ we want it straightened out yesterday and if we know anything about God at all, we might rudely demand that He help us out of the mess and grant us our “genie in the lamp desire” just because He can and we so deserve it. Yeah, it’s our selfish, human nature that gets the better of us and gets us on it’s side only to abandon us at an empty wish pond full of mud and mire. We blame everyone else and oh yes, we blame God for our problem and our lack of good fortune! Like the thief on the one side of Christ on the cross, we arrogantly ask God to prove His worth, use His credentials, save His reputation and in so doing save us from our ruin.

Ahh but, God isn’t such a quick fix because He hears our spiritual words and He sees attitudes and behaviors that don’t jive! He knows that the heart is far from Him and our talk is cheap! He has work to do with our immaturity and some serious ‘boot camp’ training before He’s ready to answer our whims and wishes. So ~ in His quietness and lack of response, bitterness brews in our soul and so ~ we turn and run back to the heaps of rubble and our empty wish ponds just to show God who is boss and prove to the world that we don’t care. We give God a bad rap before friends as we blatantly and severely influence them in wrong ways.

Let’s get it! Let’s get that God has our best interest at heart and that the rubble we may find ourselves in is because we’ve put ourselves there with our choices. You know how you got there and it took time, so it will take some serious time to get out. You won’t fix it just because you wish it. You won’t fix it just because you turn to God for a week, or a month, six months, or even a year. Nor will He ~ not necessarily ~ and why should He? There are a lot of issues and hearts and souls and ‘stuff’ that need addressing. Closets need cleaning and God works from the inside out and the ground/root level up. His works are not superficial band-aids to cover a hurt just to get you through the day , but His architecture is solid, ground level building and framing to stabilize and brace for some serious storms and rough roads ahead. Yeah, life is tough for all of us, but living it with God and consistently good choices it becomes a whole lot easier! Never lose hope. Don’t let it go! Hold on tightly to it until it blooms.

True faith perseveres…..

Phil 3:14
. But as they “work out [their] salvation with fear and trembling” (Phil 2:12), they find that “it is God who is at work in [them], both to will and work for His good pleasure” Phil. 2:13.

God Bless